Some people would like to believe that by just thinking positive or speaking affirmations, you can overcome your fears. Unfortunately this well meaning sentiment is only part of the story. The other part is something you might not want to know. In order for you to truly get unstuck, it is necessary for you to deal with the fear and anxiety that is blocking your efforts to move forward. F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. Like all emotions, fear is simply a signal that there is something to pay attention to. It often indicates you have a concern or anticipation that something undesirable may happen soon. “May happen soon” means at some point in the future. This is the reason why fear is false. Fear takes you out of the present moment into a state of worry and anxiety about the future. Fear tricks you into thinking about what might be instead of what is. You might be unsafe. You might be hurt. You might be unhappy. You might be – but you are not right now. The great news is that you do not have to live in this future state of fear. If you are willing to use fear in a positive way, fear can be a useful tool to notice when you need to get your mind right. Here are the 4 best things you can do...Read More
Adrienne Fikes, M.Ed.
Adrienne Fikes, M.Ed, C.S.C is the Soul Power Coach™ of SoulPowerCoach.com, a best-selling Author, Speaker and Life Coach for highly creative adults who spread love by solving other people’s problems. Her clients are mature, passionate men and women who quietly do wonderful things serving others but don't always pay enough attention to their own self care. Leading educators, advocates lawyers, entrepreneurs, healers, artists and other creative professionals have worked confidentially with the Soul Power Coach™ since 2008, learning practical decision-making strategies. Ms. Fikes shows her fun-loving clients exactly how to find the divine answers, life balance, and inner courage they crave to show up more consistently as their most powerful purposeful self, in 12 life areas.
Ms. Fikes holds a Masters Degree in Education and Human Development (M.Ed.) from The George Washington University, and a Bachelors of Science in Psychology (B.S.) from Georgia State University. She is a former training and development specialist and management analyst at a technical engineering and management consulting firm, providing leadership and civilian workforce development support for the Navy's strategic missile system. Ms. Fikes proudly serves as a board member and former Executive Director of the Parent Leadership Training Institute (PLTI) of Alexandria, Virginia. Ms. Fikes resides in the Washington DC Metropolitan area.
I have always been fascinated by how people create unspeakable joy. What is that “thing” that inspires people to own and embrace their authority and influence over their own lives? Yes, I am a people geek. For well over a decade I worked on these questions as a training and development specialist, and management analyst. Prior to that, my background was working research projects in the area of child growth and development for a noted university. I spent most of this time being rewarded and applauded for my efforts while being completely frustrated by the lack of change at the heart of the matter.
The projects and issues I was being asked to address did not move me. I wondered why doesn’t that parent dealing with substance abuse care enough to change that baby’s diaper or play games with their child? What causes people to ignore the small things they can do to improve the overall health, safety and well-being of an unhappy unproductive workplace? Why won’t that secretary sign up to take those free college courses with her friend to advance and progress beyond that desk? Why do those executives think that the problems within the organization have more to do with others instead of them? Can it really be a simple as I think it is to make a lasting impact in a complex situation? I wanted to change the world. I wanted people to love what they do and love who they are. Loving who you are is the best way to be well equipped and willing to love and meet the needs of those around you. In the same way that leadership and personal accountability are the hallmarks of any solution I proposed, I challenged myself to be the change I wanted to see in the world. On the job, I chose to focus my energies on the parent that wanted to nurture and care.
The secretary that was ready to advance – alone if need be. The executive that wanted to learn how to lead with integrity. Simultaneously, I began to challenge myself to pursue a career path with unspeakable joy. My personal and professional development became a priority in my life. I began looking for effective ways to love and accept myself. Where is my responsibility for this circumstance. What can I learn about myself in this experience? What is the difference between what I say and what I do? Why is that person pushing my buttons and what lesson am I getting about myself? After years of starts and stops, I launched Soul Power, LLC in 2008. I became the Soul Power Coach™ to take what I learned over all those years and put into helping people stand in their own purpose and power. I am doing this to encourage people like me who are ready to step out of the crowd and honor the spirit of love and joy that resides within all of us. That love and joy is what drives me to be of service to, and inspire others to embrace their own Soul Power.
Articles by Adrienne Fikes, M.Ed.
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If I you would allow me to have your attention for just a moment, there’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you. Listen, I want to express my sincere gratitude to you for the tough choices you are making today. Seriously, thank you! Thank you for shining your light in the world. I see it. I see you. You inspire me to shine my light brighter too. Thank you for deciding to allow more meaning and satisfaction into your world. Really, I know today is a busy day, but I don’t want to forget to tell you how absolutely fantastic you are. Thank...Read More
I’m just wondering. You keep saying it but are you serious? You say you want to be happier. You say you want to lose weight. You say you want to stop letting people walk over you. You keep claiming that you’re going to start living your dream. You keep swearing over and over that you are going to change. You’ve cried about not ending up in this same place again. You’ve even started creating pretty little memes about all the wonderful empowering things you say and sharing them with your networks. But are you serious? I’m asking because no...Read More